My brother is going through unbelievable emotional pain right now. Certain situations are becoming clearer to him and he is choosing/having to move forward. I never imagined that things would turn out this way in this particular situation but they are and it's always easy to give a pat answer such as ' oh well, God knows best.'
Warning: beware of a flying fist if these words come out!
Andy and I feel the pain as well and it's one of those times where there is nothing that can be done except listening and giving gentle encouragement. Andy does better then me in this area as I feel I need to talk to make it better, but in this situation no amount of talking will change what is happening. I will then take the clue from my husband and listen compassionately.