When I was much younger, I liked the word fair, it helped me get what my siblings got and life was better.
Now that I am in the place where I decide for kids/ extended family/ siblings the role they have in our lives, I'm deciding that being fair is for the birds! The whole concept of 'fair' is backwards. For example: you have 2 different people who you want to be 'fair' towards but you can't because those two people are not the same. The decisions, words, and personalities are different so you can't treat them the same. What you do for one isn't an automatic do for the other. Fair puts everyone on the same level which we are not.
We all make our own choices whether good or bad and being fair (treating everyone the same) doesn't take that into account.
My biggest issue with being fair is that you the person who gives out fairness, like candy, ends up being a victim to fairness it's self and you can't do certain things because it's not fair. Well fairness is for the birds and I'm NOT playing the fair game anymore. Thank you Jesus that God is not fair.